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Good People, Bad People

Life is very complicated. It's not black or white. It's not even black, white or grey. It's all the colours of the spectrum. It's not like the movies. People are not divided into bad or good. People are just people.

When we start thinking someone is a good person we automatically think that he is going to be doing good things. A good person tells the truth, wants peace, is helpful, compassionate, kind, caring, and thoughtful. So when he does something clearly "bad" we now categorize him as "bad" with all the bad qualities we think of. Then our reactions can be according to what we are told about "bad" people. Bad people break rules, lie, cheat, are unkind, cruel, mean and ruthless.

Bad people and Good people are very well defined by what they do --- not WHY they did a certain thing.

Consider this scenario: You're watching an Indian movie and a guy and a girl fall in love. The girl's father is a "bad" guy and is against their union. He hires people to kill the guy but because this hero is a "good" guy he's stronger and can tackle every one and win the girl in the end. Since the father is a "bad" guy, he gets killed in the end by the "good" guy. Since the girl is "good" too, she forgives the "good" guy coz after all he did a "good" thing by eliminating the "bad" guys. Happy ending.

That's not how real life goes.

Sometimes bad people do good things and sometimes good people do bad things. You know why? Because there IS no good people or bad people in real life. There are just people. We have a tendency to do both within us. It is a constant struggle of guilt and pleasure.

So next time anyone shatters your beliefs in them which you've had since birth, remember they were just normal people like you and me. Maybe they made bad decisions, maybe they had different priorities, maybe they were misguided, you will never know. What you know NOW is, they were people. Not bad, not good. They were just people.